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...make out with other girls?
Yes
45%
 45%  [ 9 ]
No
30%
 30%  [ 6 ]
Yes but only if... (insert requirement)
15%
 15%  [ 3 ]
Other
10%
 10%  [ 2 ]
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 7:07 pm    Post subject: Should I let my girlfriend... Reply with quote

My girlfriend has a thing for making out with other girls but when she has a boyfriend she will only do it if he gives her permission.

I'm pretty sure that given a few drinks I'll be all for it but as of right now I've told her she's not allowed to.

So what do the rest of you think?
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 10:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I voted only if simply for virtue of the fact that boundaries are rarely a bad thing, especially when it comes to drama prevention. What that if is depends on the situation.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 3:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You might as well. If it's something she enjoys and you prevent her from doing it, she'll eventually end up doing it anyway but behind your back. If you let her, then at least she'll be open about it.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 4:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Glistam wrote:
You might as well. If it's something she enjoys and you prevent her from doing it, she'll eventually end up doing it anyway but behind your back. If you let her, then at least she'll be open about it.


I would normally agree with that but she actually asked me if I was okay with it. So it's not so much me telling her that she can't as her just offering to not do it.

Regardless If I know me at all, and I'm pretty sure I do, I'm going to end up telling her she can after a few drinks on New Years anyways.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 7:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sticky situation. Could lead to heartache and misery, could lead to good clean fun. Lots of "ifs". I vote "wait and see".
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 7:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I said no. I don't care what kind of relationship you are in. If you are suppose to be together as a couple there are things you don't do with other people male or female. If she does she is cheating on you. That is how I see if.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 7:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'd be down with it. Sooner or later she'd end up throwing you into the mix. Besides, she's just a girlfriend, if things get crazy and you two split up, no big deal.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 8:48 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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she'll eventually end up doing it anyway but behind your back

That's pretty cynical. It could happen, but it all depends on the person. You can't give a blanket generalization for something like this.

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If you are suppose to be together as a couple there are things you don't do with other people male or female. If she does she is cheating on you

Relationships are different things to different people. There are no rules.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 10:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

CrushFearSynth wrote:
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If you are suppose to be together as a couple there are things you don't do with other people male or female. If she does she is cheating on you

Relationships are different things to different people. There are no rules.


That is certainly true. While I'm a fan of more "traditional" relationships there are certainly plenty of people out there who are happy in all kinds of different situations.

Anyone who thinks a couple can only be happy if they are in a committed, monogamous relationship between two people needs to take a closer look at the world around them. Odds are a couple of your neighbor's relationships aren't nearly as "traditional" as they seem on the surface.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 1:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Tell me about it. I move back home just to find a large population of swingers has developed in my hometown of Podunkville Alabama. But it is good to see family trees intermingle for a change.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 2:17 pm    Post subject: Re Reply with quote

Only if you are there. With you there (assuming you are having a good time) it is something you are doing together vice something she is doing behind your back. Beware though, if she has a thing for making out with other women you may soon find your self obselete.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 5:20 pm    Post subject: Re: Re Reply with quote

SPyder wrote:
if she has a thing for making out with other women you may soon find your self obselete.


Like THAT could happen. Besides its a girlfriend, if it doesnt work out....woopty effin' doo.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 5:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Like THAT could happen

It definitely could happen. Hopefully you aren't one of those dimwits who think that a girl can never please another girl like a guy can. Women know what women want.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 6:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Women know what women want.


True, but it also isn't true that a guy can never please a girl like another girl.

As far as the kissing thing... it depends on what you want I guess, and what your actual comfort level is. It can be fine, and it can lead to some very enjoyable craziness, even if you aren't involved.

On the other hand, if you're looking for a serious committed relationship, and monogamy is a part of that for you... I would probably tell her that I wanted it to be just her & I.


So I guess the question is: Do you want wild or safe? Both are good in their own way.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 6:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

CrushFearSynth wrote:
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Like THAT could happen

It definitely could happen. Hopefully you aren't one of those dimwits who think that a girl can never please another girl like a guy can. Women know what women want.
Spoken with true insecurity.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 6:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well I'm not real worried about her switching teams. She's pretty adamant about thinking the idea of going down on another girl is gross.
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PostPosted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 6:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 7:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just because she thinks going down is gross doesn't mean she won't switch teams. Hell, I've known plent of heterosexual males who didn't like it either (didn't know 'em for long!) That being said this is completely up to you. I know I would feel (and have felt) the same way about being intimate with a girl while in a relationship as I would about being intimate with a guy. If you're into living out some male fantasy and she's game and you're game no harm no foul. If you really deep down think it's not a good idea but you think you should tell her it's okay because men everywhere have this fantasy about chicks making out then don't cave. It's okay if you don't want your girlfriend making out with other people (regarless of their sex). End soap box and MERRY CHRISTMAS!
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PostPosted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 8:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I voted no, but I also don't know just how serious the relationship is. I'm a typical hopeless romantic, if I'm in a relationship, it's serious. If I'm in a relationship, she is mine, and I am hers, no if's, and's, or but's about it. Call it 'cheesy' if you want, but kissing is cheating to me, especially because it nearly always ends up leading to more.
If it's not a serious buckled down relationship, then go for it! Try to live out the typical male fantasy, as Chick said, if there won't be any consequences.

However the main reason why I voted no, is due to two good friends of mine losing great girls over a threesome with a good friend of theirs. In both instances, the girlfriend grew way to jealous of watching her man fuck the friend. And in one instance, it came to a rude awakening with my buddy who had passed out spooning with the friend, and his girlfriend waking up to see it.
In one of those situations, my buddy and his girl broke up, and the three haven't spoken in nearly four years, after being best friends for a long time. In the other instance, my buddy broke up with his girl, ended up immediatly dating the other girl for a couple years, and then had a major melt down with her after moving across the country.
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PostPosted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 4:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Nope. I don't want my gal doing anything with anyone else. She feels the same way.

But, everyone's different. You already know what you want. Just be honest. It's easier than lying.
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